In light of the absolutely great teleseminar with Nelson de Witt and Kevin Hofmann, I thought it would be great to address some of the language used in the adoption "world". During our teleseminar, Approaching the Search: Adoptees and Adoptive Parents Speak in which we addressed some of the issues that come up when adoptees want to begin looking for their brith family. One fo the subjects was the language used by both parties. The following is from USA Adoptions and gives some pointers and examples of the language used.
POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE
Choosing to use positive adoption language will help end the myth that adoption is second best. By using positive adoption language, you’ll reflect the true nature of adoption, free of stereotypes.
Below are some examples of positive and negative adoption language.
Positive Adoption Language
Negative Adoption Language
|Birth parent ||Real parents|
|Birth child ||Own child |
|My child ||Adopted child; own child |
|Make an adoption plan ||Give up your child |
|To parent ||To keep|
|Child placed for adoption ||An Unwanted Child |
|Court Terminated ||Child Taken Away|
|Child with Special Needs ||Handicapped Child|
Mardie Caldwell, C.O.A.P. is a Certified Open Adoption Practitioner, an award winning author of 2 adoption books AdoptingOnline.com and Adoption: Your Step-by-Step Guide. Mardie is also the talk show host of Let's Talk Adoption.com with Mardie Caldwell and the founder of Lifetime Adoption in 1986. She travels and speaks nationwide on adoption topics, family topics, infertility and writing. She has been quoted in and consulted for Parenting and Adoption magazines and has appeared on CNN, CBS, ABC, BBC, NBC, and Fox. Featured in Parade Magazine,
Caldwell is an adoptive mother living in Northern California.